A little girl...
tends to be self absorbed
- generally unaware of others' feelings and inflexible when it comes to accommodating others' needs
- wants to be the center of attention, whether overtly or by default
- high maintenance at home, school, workplace
lacks discretion, insight and wisdom
- behaves inappropriately at important (personally i don't think it should be just impt times, should beall the time) times and rarely thinks about consequences
- more impulsive than thoughtful
makes others responsible for her happiness
- dependent on others for her sense of value and is highly influenced by what others say
- always seeking others' approval and becomes angry/bitter if she doesn't get it
- the need to feel attachment to another human being to feel whole
avoids getting close to God
- angry w Him most of the time, blames Him for her troubles but still expect God to rescue her
- Recognizes that God has plans for others but thinks He overlooked her when handing out His favour
has a hard time being a wife/mother/good friend/(basically whatever role you are in)
- uh self explanatory? hahaha!
- being a 'taker' and seldom a 'giver' in relationship
takes a cynical approach to life and the future
- believes her life to be of little value and often sees her future as quite bleak
- longs for the good old days and compares where she used to be with where she is
- sighs as each new day begins
and of course there are other behaviours that a 'little girl' might exhibit. Maybe in such good days, you might not be this way but think about whether you might be acting in this manner when you're faced with obstacles.
So, next question. What is a big girl? (quite the opposite of the little girl)
Cares more about others than herself
- sensitive to others and their needs
- generous and doesn't patronize those who have more
treats others well and expects to be treated well herself
possesses remarkable discretion, insight and wisdom
- sensible and reasonable
- advice generally sound and reliable
- knows when to speak and when to stay silent
- doesn't take herself too seriously, meaning she can laugh at herself and others (haha uh)
- recognizes that everything she does has a consequence, hence thoughtfully considers before she makes her move
- responsible and hold herself accountable but she also recognizes the things for which she is responsible and the things for she is not
- if she falters, she does what she can to rectify the situation and move on, does not spend hours in the 'if only' and 'what if' patch*
understands that she is responsible for her own happiness
- comfortable being herself
- doesn't need to seek approval from others and she doesn't need to have a significant other to feel significant
- lives authentically because she believes she has nothing to lose and nothing to prove
- knows what she does well and what she doesn't, admits both easily
- keen to improve on what she does poorly if she needs to
- what she doesn't need to do well, she leaves alone
invites God to be part of all that she does
- and at the same time, accepts His invitation to be part of all that He does
- loves and respects God
- comfortable with God whether her days are good or bad
- knows what she believes but is open to learning more and even to being corrected
- loves being a woman and recognizes her place in the grand plan of her loving Lord
embraces/understands/delights her role as a ___
sees her life as valuable but fleeting
- looks to the future knowing she'll leave a legacy be it good or bad
- appreciates the past but look at each new day as the 'day which the Lord has made and rejoice and be glad in it' ps118:24
So what to do from this point on?
Well, the stability of a big girl's life doesn't come just because you would like to have it, you must choose to pursue it.
The pursuit will be difficult and your choices will have consequences but often the hard choices are the ones that ultimately make life easier.
So now, let's put away our childish ways.. as it's also said in 1 cor 13:11 (nlt) :)
from dear Karmen :)
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